Sex by the Fire Talk this Friday!

This Friday, November 2nd, in the Fireside Room:

Soup/Game night....with Mark and Marilyn discussing "Sex By The Fire". It will be an evening of tasteful discussion about sex with time for women with Marilyn and men with Mark for some discussion...then the large group time where we will discuss any questions that are submitted throughout the evening. 6:30-10:30pm... the Talk will begin at 7:30pm. PLEASE RSVP to kinkeadmm@sbcglobal.net so we know how much soup to bring! Cya Friday Night! -m&m

Discussion Questions

Questions for Our Women…
Questions for our women:

Do you ever wonder if my work/school is more important to me than you are?

What are some things I already do that let you know you’re a priority in my life?

What other little things could I do to help you feel loved and secure?

What are your non-negotiable things when it comes to our financial or material needs?

What are your non-negotiable things in our relationship?

Do you think we need to make any changes in our family priorities-and resulting changes in our lifestyle-to help strengthen our relationship and our family? How can we make that happen?

Questions for Our Men…
Questions for our men:

Give me an example of when you felt that I really understood the burden you feel to provide.

Can you give me an example of when you felt I didn’t?

How did that make you feel?

Would it be easier for you if we reduced our lifestyle?

How can I take some of the pressure off you?

Bringing It Home: Discussing it With Your Man (More info for Women)

What in my actions or words most makes you feel respected? Disrespected?

When you did this______________________, it made me feel like you were doing/saying this:____________________. But now I realize maybe you were doing/saying this:_____________________; is that correct?

Since examples help me “see” this better…
· Can you give me an example of a time that I really made you feel trusted?

· Can you give me an example of a time when you felt that I didn’t trust or respect you?

· Confidentially, which other couples that we know have respectful behavior patterns and which do not?

· How do you feel our parents relate to each other in this area of respect? How can our marriage improve upon their patterns?

On the Home Front: Living it With Her (Further info for Men)

Now that you realize how likely it is that the woman in you life has an underlying concern about losing your love-and that you can prevent some of that insecurity by reassuring her consistently and regularly- the trick is to figure our how to give that reassurance in a way that speaks to her heart. The quickest way- though for us guys, perhaps not the most painless- is to come right out and ask.

Here are a few suggestions to get the conversation started. Chances are, all you’ll need to do is ask a question or two and she’ll gladly take it from there.

• Since I honestly never question whether you love me, I didn’t realize that you might sometimes wonder whether I really love you. Just for the record, I do! Since examples will help me understand how you may feel here, what are some things I might say or do that make you worried about us, or about whether I truly love you? For example, what does it feel like for you when we have a conflict and I shut down?
• What are a few of the things that I say and do that most make you feel reassured that I do love you and will always be here for you?
  
  
  I think that when you say or do this,_________________________, that’s a signal that you could use some reassurance of my love for you; am I right? What other clues am I missing?
  
  When we’re arguing or frustrated with each other, how can I reassure you of my love while still giving myself time to process what’s happening?
  
  When you are upset and withdraw from me, do you ever hope that I’ll come after you?

UpComing Events

Friday November 2nd – Sex by the Fire Talk
6:00pm-10:30pm at the church
Join us for some food we provide, then for an evening of open, frank, tasteful discussion on Sex and your marriage. This will be an evening where we meet as women and men separately and then rejoin to answer questions for couples that are submitted anonymously to Mark and Marilyn throughout the evening. We will end the evening with card and board games.

Sunday December 2nd
Right after third service (approximately 12:15pm)
COLTS FOOTBALL ON THE BIG SCREEN….plus PIZZA. You bring a two liter and a dessert and we will provide the PIZZA and the COLTS on the BIG SCREEN IN FELLOWSHIP HALL! Game starts at 1:00 and ends at 4:00.

Friday December 14th
6:00pm-10:30pm
Game Night / Cookie exchange

GAME NIGHT THIS FRIDAY!

This Friday October 12th from 6-10:30 in the Fireside room here at church. GAME NIGHT! Bring something to drink and snack on, and a game to play. We will provide cards, and a hot snack for us to munch on! No child care will be provided for this event.

Activities Team

Thursday October 11th Activities Team will be meeting at Josh Randall’s house to plan the Winter and Spring activities for the Young Married Class. Call Josh at 340-1942 for directions to Josh and Lynsey’s home. Meeting starts at 7:00. If you enjoy planning and coming up with things for us to do as a class, come join Josh and his team and help them plan this winter and spring. Their address is : 4013 South Crane Court.